I'm sure your children never say, "mom, dad, I'm bored. There's nothing to do!" I know you have, more than you care to hear it. I'm not really sure that what they're saying is in regard to boredom as much as their wanting attention. My memories of growing are vivid as to all of the neighborhood gang, outside if it wasn't pouring the rain or bitterly cold, blizzard-like conditions. Mom or dad always had to call us in for supper and, most of the summer we were out even after dark playing freeze-tag, kick the can, or hide-and-go-seek. When we were stuck inside, I would play with my army men or play fight, mostly by myself, my brother had gotten too old to play little kid games. Things really changed in a short few years, when I was 8, we got a colored TV from Kash D. Amburgy's Big Bargain Barn, in South Lebanon, Oh. For the next year my friends wondered where I was. I was glued to the TV, in living color, 7 stations! That wasn't the beginning of the tech age, but from my memories, the world changed then, and those playing outside days were numbered. They weren't numbered for me and my outside generation, but for the generations that followed as well. These memories are pleasant, but we can honestly say, devastating too. Today, kids still play outside, but normally at their parents urging. They have DVD players, Wii games, Xbox kinect, cell phones, mp3 players, ipads, Kings Island passes....why bother outside unless you have a pool? Do you think they may have a tad too much? I know not all kids have all of these things, but most kids have at least some of these. But if all they have is cable TV, with 200+ stations, at least they have all they need to learn about life and living, and remain BORED. Really, they're bored. Watch them surf the channels. And there is an added bonus, they also teach YOUR KIDS, how to think, act, tolerate, accept, and believe. Your kids learn about science, how to have safe sex, how to be in the know with the lives of the stars, and rappers and rockers, (if they're out of jail), and everything you and I don't have the time to teach them. And they're still bored, but also infected.
People may think this is just too much, maybe I'm trying to live in the past, not accepting the change. If you feel that way I understand. I understand that many people's children, and the numbers are growing, come chin on the ground into AA and NA meetings, hopeless, addicted, and still longing for what they didn't properly get growing up....attention and instruction from parents, or loved ones. They had everything they could wish for, but not what they truly needed, time with mommy and daddy. I'm as guilty as the next person, the TV was a great sitter, I could take care of my needs while they focused on MTV, etc. Instead of instilling values and wisdom for living, we figure they'll turn out ok, they're good kids, besides I don't want to bore them...and I turned out okay, right.
" There is a generation that curses its father, and does not bless its mother." Prov.30:11
Well we're in that generation. Many who come into sobriety hold many strong resentments toward their parents. They got the attention they always wanted from the bar tender, or the dope dealer...and some other side effects, porn addiction, gambling uncontrollably, along with losses of families, friends, and goods. It's not too late, ever. See the importance of time with the kids, working daily to improve yourself to give quality time and attention to your children. If you have a child, even if they're older and in to their middle -ages, spend time with them as well, talk about now what you didn't talk about then,you won't bore them. You'll see your part in their lives. And pray, ask God for help to show you what to do. He will answer you, maybe through a friend, a book, any means are possible. Thanks for reading, God bless and keep you all, Keith.