I have been through an unexpected series of problems of late. Some were just life happening. Some were people related, inspired by their human-ness, trying to prove they are unique, rules never apply to them. Other recent problems, well, I try to determine whether they are God trying to get my undivided attention...again, or the enemy and using his arsenal of darts. Through these tough days, I had an epiphany of sorts, a sudden thought, "I am alone!"
I am not crying over it. I understand it. I am a man, we don't have friends that close. I have an AA sponsor, a CR sponsor, and several accountability partners I don't call. I'm good. Women have close friends they spill their guts to. That isn't what we men do. We're tough, hard-shelled and keep our business to ourselves.
So God, it's just me and You. That isn't His plan at all. That is how our society has trained us to think. We all need close, personal, and life-long friendships to maintain by sharing and serving each other.
"A man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother." Prov.18:24
"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will pick up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help pick him up." Eccl. 4:9-10
As I read the passage above, because they have a good reward for their labor, I pondered how hard it is to develop close relationships for men. It really takes a lot of work, getting out of yourself to be a real friend. You have to put off things you want to do to help at times. You call them when you don't want to talk. But when adversity rears its ugliness, there is no greater reward.
In short, I have to change much of what pleases me to find real pleasure. That is true of everything in life. Friends are people connecting with people, developing a trust, and sharing their hearts equally, in loyalty, in faith, without fear of exposing themselves with their personal "junk."
God places people into our lives by His grace. Too often, we are to busy with what we want and overlook what others need, forfeiting a lifelong buddy. I want that to change, so I have to change. I don't have unrealistic expectations, but know that putting forth the effort itself has great dividends.
Thanks for reading, God bless and keep you all.