Letting go of resentments or grudges if you prefer, are liberating to the soul that's searching for spiritual growth. Exposing and unloading grudges is key for anyone looking to be free of any type of addiction. Most addicts and alcoholics enter into recovery programs with similar stories of how and why they became addicted, and most with a similar grudge, against God. They are mad at Him because of where they are. "He didn't keep me from jail when I asked," or, "He didn't keep me from the DUI, it bankrupted me and I lost everything." I can tell you something else He didn't do for you, He didn't leave heaven, come to Earth and stick a needle in your arm or shove whiskey down your throat. People who are mad at God, or don't believe in Him, have never really made an effort to find Him in the first place. If you refuse to see your part in where you are and you want to play the blame game, blame the god you were serving when addictions and consequences came, yourself. Or blame the evil one that coaxed you to that lifestyle.
Other relatives can be a source of grudge bearing, as well as employers and co-workers. If I continue here I may be redundant and I'd rather save it for another time because we really need solutions to unloading these weights unforgiveness lay on us. If we live in the solution, the above mentioned is much easier to deal with. Here are good, effective suggestions that have worked for many: 1) Pray for the people in life you can't tolerate, or ones that kind of irk you when they're around. Ask God to really bless them, bring them to Himself, give their hearts desires. You may say, "you sir, are a complete imbecile." Well that's beside the point, but it really works! I have seen it first hand with myself and my wife, and people who I've personally worked with in recovery. They may not change, but they may change in your eyes. And you will change when you take the time to pray for others, but especially your enemies. 2) Forgive anyone for anything you feel is a wrong done to you. Then just let it go, surrender your will. Give it to God. When thoughts of picking up the load come back to you, and they will, ask God to remove the thought immediately. 3) Find someone, a friend or a mentor that you can really talk to. Make sure they're not a critical towards others, but thoughtful and. It's great to know God is there to hear your prayer, but He also uses people, and this person will hold you accountable for your thoughts and actions. 4) Think about your goals or aspirations, your children. If you don't change you'll be the way you are the rest of your life...are you okay with that? Unforgiveness will leave you where you're at, no personal or spiritual growth. And your children will be just like you, is that good? 5) Think thoughts of love and kindness to those around you. Read 1Cor. 13 in the Amplified Bible, (you can get that online at Biblestudytools.com), read that for 30 days straight, you'll never be the same.
I really hope these past few blogs have helped. If we have all agreed unforgiveness, grudes or resentments stifle joy and serenity in our lives. Then just let them go. God bless and keep you all. Keith