1 Peter 5:7 Casting all your care on Him, for He cares for you. (NKJV)
Everywhere I turn people are innundated with problems. Families grieve because of a member of the family has an addiction to drugs or alcohol. Others are having trouble finding work, and still others are fighting sickness that could be life ending. Attitudes are down with many, and many are concerned about the future of their children and grandchildren. In most cases, the families keep the problems to themselves, at least when it comes to a drug or drinking problem, after all, what will people think? So these problems we shoulder on our own and try to manipulate situations to fix the dilemma, and no one will find out. When we finally realize that Oprah or Dr. Phil can't help us, we move on to real help. Many looking for work get that hopeless feeling after they have went place to place looking for a job of any kind. (Sickness, however, is normally a problem people will share so others will pray.) In time, if things don't get better, we think no one cares, not even God. The fact is, many of our problems we face in life are a result of our attempt to control others, and control our own life.
We shouldn't care who knows about our problems. Get help. Not getting help may cost the addict their life. Give your problems first of all to God. Tell him what you need, and when you ask, and let Him keep the problem, don't pick it up again. When you get to the point that you know you can't, but God can, it won't matter any more. When it don't matter anymore, you surrender that joblessness to God. When it doesn't matter anymore, you can give that child or spouse over to His abilities; His watchful eye, and lovingkindness. And suddenly things change, you land a job, that family member gets into rehab, or marriage counseling, you are surrendered, yielded, serene. And be willing to share with others who've went through the same thing. God speaks through others when we are teachable and want help.
One more thing. Speak encouraging words to that individual, no matter what their problem may be. Give them something positive to lighten their load. Make them laugh if you can. And for yourself, sit down quietly each day and think about all of the blessings in your life. Read aloud a Psalm, perhaps Psalm 91, and allow it to sink in. Perhaps you and I will learn to live a surrendered life, and these problems we face won't matter nearly as much. God bless you all, Keith