No parent likes to hear those two words "I can't" come out of their child's mouth. "Yes you can honey," is our response to God's little blessing, well that's what comes out of mommies mouth. Daddy may say it much differently, and with more emphasis, you know what I mean. We all have high aspirations for our children to grow and become a person like, us, or in many cases, better than us. Parents can put their kids in many awkward positions trying to get them up the latter of success in life. Our intentions may be noble, or may be our desire to live our lives over again through our children, that's not good. We also tend to believe whatever comes from their mouth, even when there is evidence to the contrary. That is a parent's love in a perverse way, I guess. But it may be our way of saying "I support you no matter if you're wrong." Here is the problem, we try too hard to make up for our lack of teaching and directing children's lives by making them feel we believe them even when our mind is a tempest of doubt. Okay, you see what I mean, I'm no child psycologist, but a parent of 3 that observes how bad you all raise your kids, but not me, my kids are perfect...right. Here is what I really want to get at. "Train up a child in the way he SHOULD go, and when he is OLD he will not depart from it." Prov.22:6 "Even a child is known by his deeds, whether what he does is pure and right." Prov.20:11 (NKJV)
I made so many errors in rearing my children, stupid things, bad actions that could have changed their belief in my being a good father. I think we all have as parents, and parents always will. But no matter what, pursue teaching them how to speak. Bring them up in a atmosphere of "CAN." God has designed us with abilities that are directly in coordination with our beliefs. Achievement or underachievement is accomplised with what we think of ourselves, or, how we see ourselves. That's where you and I come in. We can, we must help our children understand how to see themselves in the light of achievement, if we truly understand achievement. Achievement is not amassing things, nor is it fame, or money. If you think that, you need to pay closer attention to the ruins of the rich and famous. If not for money, their rap sheet would read like the annual U.S. budget. Not all, just kidding. Real achievement is living a life of integrity, willing to give of yourself, seeing yourself as peer to all. (this is probably very hurtful to hear for many middle mgmt where I work) Teaching them how to speak is a starter to how to think. Can't should be eliminated from their little mouth. "Be careful little mouth what you say," that little Sunday school ditty has more truth than not talking with a potty-mouth, but change that to mean, be careful little mouth not to talk down about yourself. If you teach attitude, a belief that they can accomplish as much as the next person, and enough people follow your lead, the next generation of leaders may actually keep their word, do for the nation not themselves. Your and my example is key. We must talk positively about ourselves and of others, children follow mom and dad's lead, they'll become like you as an adult, is that a good thing?
Reading to your kids is powerful, especially reading to them about achievers who started with nothing. Of course, I would direct you to the Bible, 1Samuel and 2Samuel, the story of David's life. His self-confidence was reflective of his God-confidence. He wasn't afraid to face the giant, the invading armies all around them, but he was afraid...of displeasing God, and he did, more than once. His story teaches living full of confidence in God, leading wisely, serving relentlessly, knowing how to accept blame for personal wrongs, yet staying humble before God and man. Words he spoke like, "For by You I can run against a troop, by my God I can leap over a wall!" Ps.18:29 (NKJV) No fear there, he can fight an army alone with God. There are many other stories both in the Bible and biographies of many who had nothing and achieved greatness. But the bad news is, it takes effort on your part. Turn the TV off, limit video games. You motivate them and those games and shows will mean little to them no matter how much their friends get to. You give them what they want, your attention, be consistent, and their friends will want what they have! Now get out there and make it happen! Thanks for reading, God bless and keep you all, Keith ( that's my grandson Ethan in the pic, handsome feller, I'm sure you agree)