Because I try to remain active in my personal recovery, and helping in the recovery of others, I get a slap in the face so to speak, when I hear of people that are "really trying," but never darken the door to a recovery meeting. That comment in my ears is like someone going up to a chalkboard and scraping their fingernails up and down on the board. I hear this one with regularity, "I can stay sober by praying, and going to church. I don't think meetings are necessary for me, maybe for others." To that, I have a really unreligious response...poppycock! I am not saying God cannot keep a person sober, nothing is too hard for Him. I know of people, that stopped using and boozing without AA/NA help, no rehab, no jail or bad consequences. That's a rarity.
Anyone saying they do not need recovery meetings, and are determined to willpower and take the, "me and Jesus" approach, are saying these things:
I do not want to go to meetings and hear a bunch of drunks and drug addicts yak.
I have no intention of helping others with their recovery.
I am unique, I am spiritual enough to make it.
I do not need no one's help, I never have, and I never will.
I do not think they will tell me anything I don't already know.
These statements, are statements from a person who is planning their next fiasco. Their saying that they are too good, special, and are not required to follow the directions to remain sober. Well, good luck with that. I don't believe in luck, but don't know what else to say to you other than a statement of fantasy, since you live in one. The recovering alcoholic and drug addict know this: they must ask for help from God, from others, and give back that help to others as they recover. The drug addict/drunk that determine they need no help, can say in truth: I am too embarrassed, too lazy, too good, or too holy, to ask a addict/drunk for anything, and I wouln't lift a finger to help another suffering human.
Now on Sunday, as they set in church, and the sermon is on serving, they bob their head up and down and "amen" the minister's words. "Man, the message was outstanding this morning, we all need to get more involved helping others." They ignore opportunities to help the suffering in recovery meetings daily, but don't see that as helping others, too wrapped up in how their friends and family sees them. Then, they wonder why the compulsion to use and booze will not go away, and they only hear the people around them say, "hang in there." When they suffer from multiple relapses, those same people say, "why don't you just quit?" Real helpful, huh. God helped you get sober. He will use you to help others, and use your broken past to change lives through your story, as soon as you humble yourself, ask for others help, and comply to working "the program," not your program. Snap out of it Narcissus!
By the way, the One who called you out of your darkness, brokeness, and separation from life, also said these words, "For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and give his life a ransom for many." Mark 10:45 (NKJV) I know your arrogance, or ignorance, does not cause your ascension above Him. I know better. But you have tried to hide it, like nobody knows your past, (self-deceived), and think you will start going to meetings out-of-town real soon, (procrastinator), meanwhile, relapsing with regularity. I know I'm being hard-nosed on this topic, but I really want to see you, and me, stop the excuses, swallow the pride, and get busy healing others, and being healed ourselves. And I am really tired of watching people die, really.
Okay, that's all I have for you today. This may not apply directly to you. You may know someone it does apply to. Tell them, or direct them to read this. This may be a "last call." Thanks for reading, God bless and keep you all. Keith