Is there anyone who hates compliments, or being genuinely appreciated? I don't think so. If no one ever says, "good job," or I like what you're doing, chances are good we end up hating what we're doing and want to quit. Without proper motivation we tend to give up whatever our endeavor and move on to other things, and appreciation shown to us from others motivates. Mom's will cook, clean, do wash, run kids to their activities, do the shopping, an endless list, and rarely do they hear, "thanks mom for all you do, you take such good care of us." That hurts, doesn't it mom? Dad gets up and goes to work, stressing over making enough money to meet exspenses, and affording a better lifestyle for his family. And often comes home and mows the lawn, makes repairs on the car or home, and doesn't hear, "thanks, your the best." The children go to school in the morning and set through hours of teaching, come home with homework, hopefully do their chores, bathe, and bed, does anyone say, "you're doing great, keep up the good work," do you?
At work, its much the same. Many companies try to find something wrong instead of something right with their workers. Management receive raises, I'm told, if they find violations, in some companies. Do you believe that? Use the iron fist not the hand of unity, where true strength is found. But true appreciation, and complimenting good work, goes miles beyond fear tactics. Those companies that appreciate, make their employees a part of their teams, and show gratitude for their efforts, have dedicated, motivated people that love their jobs. Money and benefits follow because production skyrockets, and the lazy and dissention starters are rooted out...by their peers.
So what should be done? In the home, thank mom for what she does, and be sincere. Pat dad's shoulder and tell him how grateful you are for his hard work. And parents, show your love for your children by a hug, and a "good job," and not telling them your stories of walking to school uphill both ways for five miles through snow and no shoes. Give them household chores. Help them develop good habits, doing homework before TV, and really limit video games, its a bad babysitter.
Above all, give thanks where it is really due...God. Who gave you the strenth to perform these tasks, the tongue to express appreciation? He did, give thanks. Read Col. 3, Eph. 5, they tell families how to act toward each other. Do this, tell God how you appreciate Him for all He does for you, its life changing when consistent. Thanks for reading, tell a friend...I appreciate, I really mean that. The kind words about the site and the book have encouraged me more than you know. God bless and keep you all. Keith