People can be cold and uncaring when they hear about the misfortunes of others. Things may be said in jest that reflect their indifference. I feel that when they say things like, "sorry about your luck," it is mainly for attention or to get a rise, or just because they are not wary that their words return to them. It is the person who knows their words, their attempt at control, and their desire to willingly do damage and hit their target, and they do it with glee, these people are hard for me to tolerate.
How someone, say divorced, but having visitational rights, can have their child kept from them is especially cruel. Or, if they constantly belittle their ex-mate casting shadows over the child toward the other parent, that is no less than evil. If the "cruel one" claims to follow Christ and behave in this manner, I have no problem confronting them, and doing so in love. If it is a family member however, I try to distance myself from the problem and pray. That goes much further than using principles to beat a family member over the head, because the closer someone is to you, the less they hear.
As I grow older, and as I grow in my walk with Christ, I really am not affected by cruelty directed toward me. I really could care less what is said about me, unless it is a result of someone I have harmed by my hypocracy. That, for Christ's sake I must rectify, so not to bring reproach on His name. When I have trouble with others words and actions is when it affects someone I love, or hold dear. I seem to lose my "religion" when my loved one is the brunt of another's cruelty. I want to do serious damage to that person...not physically, but with my pen and tongue.
I have a sure-fire way of getting rid of this cruel individual's effects. In the book of 2Chronicles 32, Judah was under seige by Assyria's king Sennacherib. Hezekiah was king of Judah. He was a godly king and had turned Judah away from idolatry, back to The God of Israel, and following His law. Sennacherib sent Judah a letter, belittling God and Hezekiah. Judah, and king Hezekiah were terrified. Hezekiah and Isaiah the prophet cried out to God. In Is.37, the story actually has more detail and states that the king took Sennacherib's letter to the temple and spread it out before God in prayer. The king was saying, and I paraphrase, look at what this foreign king is saying about you, he thinks you are just like the foreign gods he aleady defeated...and then he ended his prayer like this..
"Now therefore, O Lord our God, save us from his hand, that all the kingdoms of the earth may know that You are the Lord, You alone." Is.37:20 (NKJV)
The story ends with Sennacherib and his army called to return to their land asap, and Sennacherib is murdered by his own sons, as prophesied. Like me, God does't take too kindly of those who try to mess with those He loves.
Now from Hezekiah's story, I have a way for you to exercise your hurt feelings away...completely! What would you expect to pay for this? $99., $89., $79? No...today you can have this wonderful advice absolutely free! Three steps, that's it.
Step one: Write a letter to this cruel person detailing every incident, every hurt, and completely how you feel, without reservation. Make sure you are completely honest, thorough...leave nothing out!
Step two: You need to proofread your letter to them. You have to do it this way if you want success. Take the letter to a quiet place, spread the letter out and read it aloud to God in prayer. Every word, every detail. Make sure God understands how you really feel. Then remind Him that you are His kid, He is God, and He now owns the care of this problem. Then express gratitude to Him.
Step three: When you finish your prayer, burn the letter, or rip it to shreds and say, my bad feelings for this person are like this letter, burned up and gone. I forgive, (insert their name), and pray that God gives them their every desire and need. Now you are free. Now you can welcome this person in love without the concern of how they feel about you.
Doesn't that feel great? We cannot expect the individual to change. That poor person will have to go through much sorrow if they continue. And also remember that they are in your life for a reason, so pray for them, forgive them, and bless them instead of cursing them. If this helps you, HIT THE LIKE BUTTON. If it is no help, comment NO HELP.
Thanks for reading, God bless and keep you all. Keith