Tomorrow is Father's Day. I am thankful to be able to celebrate another year with my dear father, and count it a real blessing to have him with us at 82...he looks younger than me. Many friends have lost their parents over the past few years, and I really hope they take the time to remember their dad by saying happy Father's Day to dads they know.
Many people in America, and the number steadily grows, have no dad to share the holiday with. It isn't because their dad is in heaven, its because they have no clue who their dad is, or he bolted on them when they were born or very young.
In an article dated 12/1/2006, the Washington Times reported that 36.8% of children born in the US were illegitimate. In 1960, that number was 5.3%...and the people thought that was outrageous. A more recent article on the website, discoverthenetworks.org, site subtitled, "a guide to the political left, entitled the article, "Breakdown of the Black Family," stated that the black community had an illegitimacy rate of 70-80%...!!! This is tragic! White and hispanic communities do not fare much better!
When a young man becomes fully aware that he has fathered a child, and walks away from that child, determining to have nothing more to do with their young, for whatever reason, he may be sentencing that child to live in utter poverty, to face imprisonment, have psycological problems, and send his posterity on a downhill slide that it may never recover from. Both of the above articles mentioned noted that the young children from the loins of these fleeing fathers" face more possibilities of living in poverty, placed in prison, with all sorts of other pathologies and problems.
Babies having babies is the best way to describe this problem. There is another entirely different problem in fatherhood this country faces, well actually more than one, but this is a blog, not a book. There are children who have their father at home their entire life, but he is merely a household decoration more than a father. His best advice to his children, "do as I say not as I do." Are you kidding me? That is how you teach your young? They fully expect their wife, or the church, or their public schools to instruct the children the way to live. The children want their father's attention and love, but he's busy...the game is on right now.
The first 7 chapters of Proverbs give you all the instruction you need, on how to raise your children by emphatic, practically pleading to them, about what to watch for in life. In chapter 1vs. 8 My son, hear the instruction of your father... and each of the next six chapters start that way. But in chapter 4, read it all, make your children wise.
"Hear my children, the instruction of a father, and give attention to know understanding, vs.1, Get wisdom! Get understanding! Do not forget, nor turn away from the words of my mouth!" vs.5
This father is teaching, and imploring his child the way of living. If you take the time to read these chapters, it may change your child's future, and your future Father's Day will be viewed as a day they truly honor their father.
Of course, you don't have to stay around, be a man, and raise your sons and daughters. You can let them be a statistic of illegitimacy. You don't have to instruct your children, you can go dig them out of the barrooms later on when they are spending the money to feed their children a few years from now. Or you may have the pleasure of seeing them through the glass in a nice federal pen...at least they have food.
Think these things through. Pray for those who are fatherless. Think about how often you sat down with your little ones, and talked about life, and the importance of family, about integrity, and justice, and their importance to you. You can teach them how to play sports anytime, but today, teach them about God, about Jesus, love, etc. and if you bailed on your child, make it right, find a way, ask God to help you do so.
Happy Father's Day, thanks for reading, God bless and keep you all. Keith