Most times it is good to just be you, no façade, not trying to impress anyone, just you. If you want others to like you, be real. Most people can smell a phony a mile away. There is something unearthly about a phony. Most people considered to be phony only really fool themselves. Being you, however, implies honesty, integrity, someone trustworthy.
There is a problem with being yourself all of the time. If left to my own devices, I carry being myself right into complacency, no thought of anyone else. "Sorry, that's just how I feel, and I don't feel like it." These statements can take an individual having success in recovery down into a dangerous neighborhood...their mind. This statement is a big sobriety killer; "I cannot help it, that's just the way I AM."
Graced with sobriety gives the recovering from addictions a wonderful sense of "mission," something they need to accomplish. Often this feeling comes from the gratitude of freedom from the enslaved way of living for drugs and alcohol. Suddenly, helping others becomes easy and desirable. Yet, many in recovery forget, and become slothful, and return to self-serving...being themselves.
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If Bill Wilson had just been himself, AA, those twelve steps to recovery may have never developed. Similar steps used by so many different recovery programs. Mother Teresa of Calcutta, had she been herself, a generation would have never known her kindness, let alone her example set for others to follow serving the poor and destitute. Name others? Paul, Peter, Augustine, Francis of Assisi, Patrick, Florence, and on, and on, people who lived selflessly.
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The song playing in hell right now, and for eternity: "I've Got to Be Me."
"Sorry, that's not the way 'I AM." Really, 'I AM just not that type of person. I don't go into hospitals to visit. That is not my calling."- complacent believers
"I am what I am... that's all that I am." - Popeye
"I do not like green eggs and ham, I do not like them, Sam I AM."= Sam, I Am. (Seuss)
The True I AM
"God replied to Moses, "I AM WHO I AM." Ex.3:14 (NLT)
..."I AM the Bread of Life, whoever come to Me will never hunger again." -Jesus Jn.6:35
"I AM the Light of the World"... -Jesus Jn.8:12
Being yourself is admission that "I'm no different than you." That is not being phony or self-serving. Looking for a job, joining a group, or just fitting in...be yourself. In recovery, or helping others, or donating time and money, don't be you. That's much less than impressive. Be Jesus, bring Him into everything you do.
Thanks for reading, God bless and keep you all.