Step 3: Made the decision to turn our wills and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood Him. The Big Book of AA/NA
On the road to recovery, these first three steps are our realization that life didn't go as we had planned. In step one, we see our lives have become unmanagable from alcohol and or drug abuse, and we have no power to get better. Then in step two, we come to the understanding that we need God's intervention, He can and will help if asked. Now step three. This is the step we put action into our lives. We're done analyzing our situation, now do something about it. We are now ready to do the things we have heard in the meetings, get a sponsor, (mentor), get to meetings, start the day right in prayer, and meditation on what the day may hold, and reading something related to living clean and sober.
These 3 steps must be fully understood to go further in sobriety. You cannot pick 1 and 2, and leave out 3. If that is a thought in your mind, then you don't get it, yet. Or if you think, "my life isn't really unmanagable, I just need to chill a bit, slow down and not overdo drinking when I go out." We can't teach you to drink socially, and if this thought is in your head, you don't get it. You may have a fear of no longer being accepted by drinking/using friends, you're missing the picture. There is nothing worth living a life serenely, finally with the understanding that sober living is wonderful, and having your spouse's and children's trust again. Having the ability to make good decisions, to plan future events, and to regain our self-confidence...those things that eluded us when in the depths of our sickness, is worth every moment of sobriety, and the loss of every "friend." All of these 3 steps must be perfectly executed daily...every day.
If you struggle with any of these 3 steps, get with your sponsor, and ask God for help. Try this simple prayer:
"God, I need You. I've messed up my life, I've messed up others lives. I know You're my only hope. I'm choosing to do what you want me to do. Please help me."
When you come to truly understand how important these 3 steps are, you'll also see the importance of fellowship with others in the programs of AA and NA. And this may not be what you want to hear, but you must put the sobriety meetings first. Church is important, go and go often, but meetings must come first. Kids activities are important, but your sobriety hinges on your future with your family, meetings must come first. Your children nor your church attendance can teach you how to stay sober, meetings can and do. As unpleasant that may be to realize, it's true. God lead you to these meetings for a purpose, not to make everyone else happy, but for you to get well. Thanks for reading, God bless and keep you all, Keith.