We think one person has developed to the place in recovery that they are above temptation's ability to deceive them. Our admiration of such a person places them as heroic in our minds. Then, this mountain of stability takes a major tumble into relapse. Some of us are quick to point out why, in a judgmental pose from our own perch. Others say, what's my chance to stay clean and sober when someone with their knowledge of sober living comes to this? They go ahead and give up, and relapse. "What's the use?" they ask.
We cannot be deceived to think we are too full of recovery smarts that we cannot fall. Relapse can come from many sources, in ways unexpected. The first way is pride. The thought that we do not need to go to meetings regularly.
Never think that you have paid the price and can't see the need to get to meetings. Prideful people are very fast to judge other's sobriety. I really feel pride has such a negative impact on an individual that it's presence affects the spiritual plane of our existence, causing one to face the weaknesses they see in others.
Another biggie is complacency. This little booger is closely related to pride. The difference is the complacent individual is awareness they aren't above relapse. Their issue is not "feeling" like going, not feeling like reading positive materials, or praying, or helping others. This kills most people's recovery about a year, more or less, ahead of the actual fall back into their addiction.
Procrastination, the five syllables of death has ruined the recovery of many. Putting off working the steps to recovery, or doing the next right thing because they are so loaded down with other tasks they cannot see a meeting, calling their sponsor, or helping a neighbor, etc.
Also, some are laded with consequences from the past. They try too hard to "fix" or undo their past by taking on the bigger problems. If unsuccessful, they just quit. Do little things first, the big ones will become easier as each little problem solved builds confidence.
Religion can be a bad thing for a person choosing to go the church attendance route instead of AA, NA, GA, CR, etc. I am all for church attendance for aiding recovery. Keep this in mind; Recovery meetings teach you how to recover from your addictions, help you understand and accept and surrender what you have become, and help you learn to deal with consequences.
Church meetings can reinforce and help with these problems, but it is highly doubtful the weekly sermon will be about your recovery. Many take this route because of pride, not wanting anyone to know they are anything other than a sinner, not a weak, out-of-control addict or drunk.
There are other things that bring down the mightiest of recovering individuals. For your information, I don't have these thoughts from just observing others. I have, and still do face many of these issues personally. My enemy, or addiction is me. Self- serving is my real problem, addictions to anything are side effects.
For all of us working our recovery, don't get too smart. Don't be dishonest of where you are when things are awry. Total honesty is an admission that may save us from pride, complacency, and putting off recovery. The season of joy is here when we celebrate the birth of Christ, and welcome the new year. Humbly ask God's help for understanding the purpose of Christ's coming, and the purpose He has for you today, the upcoming year, and direction to keep you from falling. What do you think?